A lot of people struggling with mental illness refuse to seek out therapy. It can be quite frustrating as a friend or family member to watch someone you care about struggle while constantly rejecting help. Alternatively, you may be the one who is suffering, and you may be constantly rejecting the idea of therapy whenever raised by someone else.
So just why do people reject help when they are in need? People can make excuses for various reasons – below are some of the common reasons people in need reject therapy.
Denial that there is a problem
A lot of people don’t want to admit they have a mental illness. This could be because they may view admission as a weakness or they may fear an official diagnosis may affect their rights to work/look after children. This is why so many people that are depressed convince themselves that they are just sad, and why so many alcoholics convince themselves that they don’t have a drinking problem.
This denial results in many people rejecting therapy. The truth is that anyone can and should seek out therapy – regardless of whether you have a full-blown diagnosed mental health illness. We should be viewing a therapy session as a form of preventative healthcare similar to a checkup at the doctors or dentists.
Stigma surrounding seeking treatment
Some people know that they have a problem but are still worried about seeking treatment because of the stigma it carries. They may feel that an inability to work through the problem themselves shows that they are incapable and weak.
This stigma shouldn’t exist – seeking treatment is a way of taking action and is the brave thing to do. It’s a much more proactive step than doing nothing.
Fear of opening up to a stranger
Opening up to a stranger can be daunting. It may feel unnatural – we’re taught to hide our insecurities when meeting new people.
However, it’s important to remember that a therapist isn’t just any old stranger. Like a doctor they’re there to treat your problem and they will treat any issues you have with care and confidentiality. There are lots of different styles of therapy out there, some of which combine activities. Some forms of therapy are likely to be better for certain people than others – you may find it easier to open up while doing exercise or while learning a skill at the same time.
Distrust in professional therapists
Some people have a distrust of therapists – particularly those that have used a therapist before and found it to be a negative experience.
The majority of therapists know what they’re doing and have extensive training. Sometimes you have a bad experience with a therapist, but that doesn’t mean that other therapists are going to be the same. It could be worth doing your research to find a therapist with a good reputation.
No time to see a therapist
Those with busy lives may not feel that they have the time to see a therapist. This is particularly the case with forms of therapy such as checking into rehab.
Nowadays, there are so many flexible forms of therapy that this shouldn’t be an excuse. The likes of outpatient depression treatment could allow you to seek out the benefits of rehabilitative care while still working or looking after kids. Virtual therapy appointments may also be an option.
The cost of therapy
Mental health therapy can be expensive. This can be a huge barrier for many people living on a tight budget.
There are fortunately more affordable options out there for those earning a certain income. There are also forms of charity support worth looking into. Health insurance covers some forms of mental health therapy, which is important to remember.