Sadness is a part of life that makes up the broad spectrum of emotions and feelings all human beings possess and demonstrate. When given a choice, people would rather be happy within themselves and lead happy lifestyles. Unfortunately, not everyone is happy.
As you can appreciate, unhappiness can significantly impact a person’s life and make them not feel like socializing, being part of a team, or generally having a positive outlook on the things that matter most in life.
Did you know that unhappiness gets caused by patterns in a person’s life? Those patterns can be behavioral (what a person does) or cognitive (what a person thinks). If you want to be happy in life, you must learn which patterns are causing your unhappiness.
Changing such patterns to result in a happier lifestyle can often be a long and challenging process. But, adopting the correct patterns will lead to more extended periods of happiness in your life.
With all that in mind, what exactly is making people unhappy these days? The following are some of the most common reasons:
It’s no secret that the COVID-19 pandemic has meant many people have had to restrict their social activities with friends and family severely. Unfortunately, that has meant some individuals have had to stay in government-imposed isolation at home.
For most people, being told they cannot see their family members and friends will have had a severely negative impact on their mental health. Of course, the idea of keeping people from gathering indoors and in large groups helps decrease COVID-19 cases.
However, the downside is people lose the social interaction they perhaps took for granted in some cases before the pandemic struck the world. While COVID-19 vaccines are slowly getting offered to people worldwide, restrictions sadly still apply to many individuals.
Some people feel they experience increased anxiety if they set foot outdoors. Others find the current COVID-19 situation doesn’t make them want to leave their homes, even if there are no travel or social restrictions in place.
The truth is, there are many good reasons to leave home and venture outdoors. For example, spending a lot of time in natural, open spaces like woodland areas is scientifically proven to increase happiness levels.
Still, some individuals find it too hard to have the confidence to leave their abodes. It makes sense for those people to seek help for their anxiety. They might even find they would benefit from depression treatment if they have other symptoms related to depression.
It should come as no surprise that some folks feel extremely unhappy in their lives due to their unsatisfactory careers. Put simply; they are in jobs they hate. The trouble with many of those individuals is they feel trapped and that they haven’t got a choice.
In those cases, they might feel there is no option to get a more satisfying and higher-paying job, and so they resign themselves to feeling they should “put up and shut up” with their unsatisfactory career choices.
Most people in the world do have a choice where they work. If they want to improve their chances of getting a ‘better’ job, they might need to work further afield from home if they live in a rural area, for example.
There is also the possibility of side-stepping into a different career. Sometimes, the careers that people choose when they first start working don’t always meet expectations. There’s little reason to stick with jobs that make them desperately unhappy.
Lack of Sleep
Sleep deprivation is a big problem in the United States. According to the Sleep Foundation, around 35% of Americans sleep less than seven hours each night. That’s over a third of the population!
It’s crucial for everyone to get plenty of uninterrupted sleep each night. That’s because the human body uses that downtime to ‘recharge’ the mind and body, helping to ward off illness and disease, and to feel refreshed the next day and ready for the day’s proceedings.
Sleep is also good for mental health. That’s because it can increase the effectiveness of specific mental health treatments and help people recover from strong mental exertion. The amount of sleep each person should have depends on who you ask.
The general consensus is that all adults should have a minimum of seven hours of uninterrupted sleep each night. If you experience poor sleep quality and always feel exhausted, how can you improve your sleep quality?
One way might be to upgrade to a more comfortable bed. If you have an old mattress, it could cause you to keep waking up each night due to uncomfortable sleeping positions. You might even find light or sound could be keeping you from having long, deep periods of sleep.
Focus On Past Negative Events
One final pattern that affects some people is when they tend to focus a lot on past negative events. These might be events related to family problems when they were growing up, or they could be events that occurred during their teenage years or during early adulthood.
The sad fact is those individuals might believe their previous negative experiences will pave the way for more adverse events in the future. Of course, it’s worth keeping in mind that past experiences don’t map out what happens in the future.
That’s because no one knows what will happen in the next few minutes, let alone several weeks, months, or even years into the future. The tendency to focus on bad things that happened in the past won’t define what a person will become in the future.
If you tend to focus on bad events that happened to you in the past, you might find it annoying when people suggest you try to approach the future with some optimism. However, when you start to do that, it can help you let go of some of those dark thoughts.
The above is by no means an exhaustive list of the things that make some people feel unhappy these days. But, they are some of the most common reasons. If you find that one or more of those ring true to you, it’s worth seeking some professional support.